tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post3557623830755202675..comments2023-10-28T06:16:41.152-05:00Comments on Hip Suburban White Guy: Gravitational ParentingXavier Onassishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01345787343828318445noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-16455361204569608062008-09-27T03:28:00.000-05:002008-09-27T03:28:00.000-05:00*new reader* WOW, what a great first post to read ...*new reader* WOW, what a great first post to read for me! We're kind of going through similar things with our 11 year old. I've always had and wanted the lines of communication wide open. I never want her to be scared to come to us for any reason. They will grow up, no matter what. We can not stop it, just hope we guided them in the correct direction. I am thankful for the opportunity to read this and take a step back and look at my parenting and hope I'm doing it "right".<BR/>Thanks, enjoy your weekend,<BR/>-DBeautiful Messhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02425541240465474148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-71843385703480977122008-09-26T23:13:00.000-05:002008-09-26T23:13:00.000-05:00And, I don't have kids, but if I did...I don't see...And, I don't have kids, but if I did...I don't see anything wrong with adopting your approach.Dexter Colthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08029661219242000332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-28881419930508363882008-09-26T23:12:00.000-05:002008-09-26T23:12:00.000-05:00You misread me as being accusatory. I was simply s...You misread me as being accusatory. I was simply stating one of those grand observations- That I never met a parent that gave their kid(s) the green-light for sex. <BR/><BR/>It was in response the the "anonymous commenter" who "kicked it off." Guess I didn't make myself clear, but I rarely do...Dexter Colthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08029661219242000332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-13390890694304617572008-09-24T21:44:00.000-05:002008-09-24T21:44:00.000-05:00Dexter - I did not and would not give her "permiss...Dexter - I did not and would not give her "permission" to have sex. But the thing is, they don't seek or need permission. They are going to do it at some point and we lowly parents won't know a damn thing about it until long after the fact.<BR/><BR/>All we can do is point the 16 year old Mormon niece with a new baby and say "don't be that stupid. don't let that happen to you."<BR/><BR/>We can let them know that they can talk to us about anything, at anytime, and mean it. <BR/><BR/>There isn't anything my daughter could ask me or confess to me or tell me that would send me into a rage. She doesn't have to be afraid of me. We can calmly and rationally discuss anything.<BR/><BR/>We can also make sure our children have real, factual, solid information instead of fantasies and fairy tales.<BR/><BR/>They need to know how humans reproduce. They need to know what can prevent pregnancy and what can't.<BR/><BR/>Facts, not fantasy. Open communication, not taboo subjects. Rational discussion, not emotional rants.Xavier Onassishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01345787343828318445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-48447281447231164562008-09-24T21:20:00.000-05:002008-09-24T21:20:00.000-05:00Were you plucked right out of the Lyceum?You seem ...Were you plucked right out of the Lyceum?<BR/><BR/>You seem like a very logical and involved parent. And, I might add, I've never met a parent who gave their teenage kids permission to have sex. I know I never got the go-ahead from mom and pop.Dexter Colthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08029661219242000332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-65392692397267654152008-09-24T13:52:00.000-05:002008-09-24T13:52:00.000-05:00You ninja bastard.Communication, honesty, respect ...You ninja bastard.<BR/><BR/>Communication, honesty, respect and boundaries. You can't really do any more than that.<BR/><BR/>Nice post by the way. And you said you didn't like poetry...Trelvixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10687813532564473260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-3940308740833722852008-09-24T11:06:00.000-05:002008-09-24T11:06:00.000-05:00nothing wrong with treating your kid as a normal p...nothing wrong with treating your kid as a normal person. next year piercing may not be cool anymore, but she won't think of you as an asshole. a win-win.kcmeeshahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16640259113083899984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-41541908369672644062008-09-24T09:37:00.000-05:002008-09-24T09:37:00.000-05:00Wait, you're not scared to death of your daughter ...Wait, you're not scared to death of your daughter growing up to be <B>gasp</B> A WOMAN!?!?<BR/><BR/>Good <deity> XO don't you know that raising a thoughtful sensible thinks-for-herself girl is tantamount to DEBIL-worship!<BR/><BR/>I'll start praying immediately for your salvation. Now where's my cuauhxicalli?Keith Saderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09145968553823653526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-79228316550943644152008-09-24T09:27:00.000-05:002008-09-24T09:27:00.000-05:00You sound like a fucking awesome dad. Go you!You sound like a fucking awesome dad. Go you!Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15687511936160956984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-44412964469474972432008-09-24T07:29:00.000-05:002008-09-24T07:29:00.000-05:00A person I admire a lot once said to me, "Teach yo...A person I admire a lot once said to me, "Teach your kids how to avoid the life-changing mistakes. The rest will take care of itself."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-17777866642664043412008-09-24T05:41:00.000-05:002008-09-24T05:41:00.000-05:00"speak with the same voice" Yep, I'm on board with..."speak with the same voice" Yep, I'm on board with that one.Joehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14955078574626461009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-2117020312859684332008-09-24T05:11:00.000-05:002008-09-24T05:11:00.000-05:00Obviously I know nothing about parenting from the ...Obviously I know nothing about parenting from the ground up so it's not for me to comment on that.<BR/><BR/>What I can say is that I've coped with the mistakes made on me and I'm trying to fix a few on a kid who's had every bad-parent-mistake made on him.<BR/><BR/>I dunno. Kids worry me.Satyavati devi dasihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13980257934310271457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-75518646209099001702008-09-24T01:26:00.000-05:002008-09-24T01:26:00.000-05:00You are so right, especially your saying that "bot...You are so right, especially your saying that "both parents need to speak with the same voice".<BR/>I just wish this one was easy to do!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-92130325216257344432008-09-23T22:49:00.000-05:002008-09-23T22:49:00.000-05:00Well said! I wish my dad had been there for me wh...Well said! <BR/><BR/>I wish my dad had been there for me when I was your daughter's age. <BR/>I hope she knows how lucky she is to have you fighting for her, caring for her and loving her.<BR/>She doesn't sound like your normal, everyday teen. You really lucked out too! She sounds like a wonderful little woman!!Green-Eyed Momsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10175981627284967050noreply@blogger.com