tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post7085238445265510232..comments2023-10-28T06:16:41.152-05:00Comments on Hip Suburban White Guy: Friendships vs. RelationshipsXavier Onassishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01345787343828318445noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-49939177322793085752010-10-02T23:17:44.072-05:002010-10-02T23:17:44.072-05:00Well I'm glad that Dan clarified because I tho...Well I'm glad that Dan clarified because I thought his account was hacked.<br />We both have male & female friends. Most are friends with both of us. I don't feel the need to chaperon each BSG game or side job.<br />If ever I found out that there was extra curricular activity him keeping it in his pants would be the least of his worries.Spyderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10469832764480816567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-77018350502883241952010-10-01T03:01:44.294-05:002010-10-01T03:01:44.294-05:00I'm pals with my second ex wife Marie, and hav...I'm pals with my second ex wife Marie, and have a few gal pals who I'm not as close with as I have been in the past. Sandra has a few issues with me having gal pals, her past husbands and dad couldn't keep it in their pants and she doesn't see "platonic" in her dictionary. Or "I had sex with so and so a few times a long time ago but I'm totally faithful to you", which seems to get by her as well.<br />Sandra doesn't have any close guy pals, but I hope I'd be as understanding as I want her to be to me and my gal pals.Joehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14955078574626461009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-56476084671848604852010-09-27T14:35:35.698-05:002010-09-27T14:35:35.698-05:00Michelle - I hoped my comment was sooo stupid that...Michelle - I hoped my comment was sooo stupid that anyone who knows me would know I was kidding - especially since I count many of the women in the blogging community as good friends. <br /><br />I need a sarcasm tag, I guess!Danhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13178761985520264906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-6015383280342823022010-09-27T10:28:09.267-05:002010-09-27T10:28:09.267-05:00I think Anon 9:07 might be momma bear.. lol ;) I a...I think Anon 9:07 might be momma bear.. lol ;) I agree Michelle. <br /><br />I think if a man in my life were to ever say, it's me or him, he really wouldn't be respecting nor understanding 1. our friendship 2. me. So, I don't know.. I would prolly pull out a ball punch and move on. <br /><br />Dont know, can't say we've really had this problem yet since we both suck ass at relationships. LOL!!! Guess we'll find out our own answer once we get there eh? ;) Now, back to shark submarines..<br /><br />BFF out. <br />AFAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-43517094946048639382010-09-27T09:42:10.845-05:002010-09-27T09:42:10.845-05:00I agree with all the comments above, (except Dan.....I agree with all the comments above, (except Dan... wtf?). Greg and I always said we were a packaged deal... people we dated knew the deal and had to accept it or move along...Well Hell Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07473212793383528406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-21805349039580619202010-09-26T06:25:44.336-05:002010-09-26T06:25:44.336-05:00Good friends are too much of what's right in t...Good friends are too much of what's right in the world to drop them because they have a vagina, or don't have a vagina. To drop one because your girlfriend or husband or dog is jealous is as stupid as non-co-ed dorms.KC Spongehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10447609824017385796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-14404809990619380092010-09-25T08:23:30.270-05:002010-09-25T08:23:30.270-05:00If the committed relationship is solid, then conti...If the committed relationship is solid, then continued friendship with the old flame or close friend is not a problem. My married daughter's best friend is a man she has known for 20 years. At one time, they were briefly also lovers and her husband probably knows that although she has never come right out and told him. She and her friend adore each other, would do anything for one another, BUT she and her husband have a deep love and committed relationship and so there is no apparent jealousy. <br /><br />I will say this though ... if my daughter's marriage ever fell apart, I wouldn't be a bit surprised to see her hook back up with her friend in a romantic way. And, I would bet her husband wouldn't be surprised either. <br /><br />Me...I'm a scorpio...once an ex lover, friendship does not follow.I Travel for JOOLShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07348834982890831188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-58345523973100045212010-09-24T21:57:56.422-05:002010-09-24T21:57:56.422-05:00Ever since I got married 28 years ago, I just don&...Ever since I got married 28 years ago, I just don't enjoy talking to other women. I don't want to be friends with any of them, either, because everything good or valuable that any woman could add to my life is supplied by my wife.Danhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13178761985520264906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-55604072448921895542010-09-24T14:16:51.128-05:002010-09-24T14:16:51.128-05:00Since it ate my longer comment...
My friends are ...Since it ate my longer comment...<br /><br />My friends are as important as my family. If a woman can't handle either in my life I don't see a relationship working.Nuke718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-88137575175613963542010-09-24T09:38:04.258-05:002010-09-24T09:38:04.258-05:00I have more girlfriends now than I used to, whethe...I have more girlfriends now than I used to, whether through the blog, or through my husband, or through other random connections in life. But every week, Leo and I head up to the bar to hang out with a bunch of dudes that we're acquaintances with, and one of them happens to be what I'd consider a very good friend. Who I used to kiss on the mouth before hooking up with Leo.<br /><br />They're mostly over their jealousies of each other, though, so it doesn't cause problems for us at all.<br /><br />Having loads of friends, regardless of gender, is awesome. Particularly when one is single. I see abslutely nothing wrong with your little revelation, XO. I think it's fab, in fact! :DFaithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13586875268181033533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-81431388598851247302010-09-24T02:31:55.777-05:002010-09-24T02:31:55.777-05:00I grew up with a house full of boys. I find I have...I grew up with a house full of boys. I find I have an easier time relating to them than girls, who can get all catty and dramatic. I have some female friends, but I have some close male friends too.<br /><br />No matter who I have a relationship, I make clear right off the bat that my friends were there before, and I'm not ditching them to assauge someone's insecurities.GB, RNhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09735213378851473207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-66250564858139778422010-09-23T23:20:33.404-05:002010-09-23T23:20:33.404-05:00Average Jane - Agreed!
Anonymous - I think this m...Average Jane - Agreed!<br /><br />Anonymous - I think this may be the first time you actually posted a comment here instead of just reading! Thanks!<br /><br />Poodles - If Hulk doesn't feel compelled to SMASH him, it must be all good. You prove my point.<br /><br />Linda - You and Vince know exactly what I'm talking about!<br /><br />Donna - Then you can be my friend. I'm mostly harmless.Xavier Onassishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01345787343828318445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-85322091535839073722010-09-23T21:35:16.837-05:002010-09-23T21:35:16.837-05:00Since I have no friends, male or female, except my...Since I have no friends, male or female, except my husband and relatives... I sit on the sidelines saying "I don't have a clue."Donna. Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18393352099473686196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-24790185211339137712010-09-23T21:27:08.895-05:002010-09-23T21:27:08.895-05:00The more the merrier. Look at the person and what ...The more the merrier. Look at the person and what attracts your partner to that friendship. If you're insecure or threatened, there are probably greater issues. The love of my life and I hang out with his former fiancé (whom I adore) and the guy who deflowered me. You really can't expect one person to encompass every single trait you admire in another human. As long as the lines are clear and communication is open, I think it's wonderful to have friends with differing strengths, perspectives and experiences.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13225635421849567481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-77006827819511784122010-09-23T21:17:25.427-05:002010-09-23T21:17:25.427-05:00"good thing" I hate when I miss a typo."good thing" I hate when I miss a typo.Poodleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04058132060541145052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-37366555428470369662010-09-23T21:15:59.470-05:002010-09-23T21:15:59.470-05:00Oh god, my relationship with my best friend would ...Oh god, my relationship with my best friend would make Ross' head explode. I have many male friends, many female friends, both gay and straight of both genders. My best friend is a man who I once had a relationship with, who is now gay. (Boom, there goes Ross' head). My BFF and I are as close as two people can be without sex (anymore). I call him my gay husband. My husband and his husband know that we are very important to each other and he and I share a certain intimacy in the way we interact. You've seen my husband (The Hulk), it's probably a good think he isn't the jealous type.Poodleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04058132060541145052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-61536447454048266482010-09-23T21:07:52.806-05:002010-09-23T21:07:52.806-05:00Well my hubby and I talked about this so here goes...Well my hubby and I talked about this so here goes my hubby says that as long as the old friend isn't a fuck Buddy or a old flame then there should not be a prob. as long as it is ok with the wife or new girlfriend or hubby ??? now I think yeah that part is true and I do have a BFF and my hubby and I have went out with him and had drinks but he has since married and so life goes on but I know if I need him or he needs me I am there and so would he!!! so I vote YES keep your friend and that should teach the troll not to poke the fucking bearAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21353439.post-39733117200237132052010-09-23T20:51:02.489-05:002010-09-23T20:51:02.489-05:00Absolutely! I have friends of all genders. The imp...Absolutely! I have friends of all genders. The important word there is FRIEND. As long as everyone understands what friendship entails, everything's cool.Average Janehttp://averagejane.blogs.comnoreply@blogger.com