Wednesday, November 07, 2012

Lost "Friends"

I've been hanging on to a group of friends from the old "KC Singles" online dating site from over 10 years ago.

But it has become increasingly apparent, particularly this evening, that we really don't have anything in common.

Virtually all of them are Right Wing Republicans who ride motorcycles, shoot animals, have stockpiles of fire arms and ammo because they think civilization is on the verge of collapse due to the fact that a black man is sleeping in the White House and everyone who isn't a greedy, money-grubbing, "small business" "job creator" must be a lazy, useless Welfare recipient sucking on the government tit.

I'm done.

I've been cutting them philosophical slack for a decade, but I'm done.

There are a couple of them whose friendship roots  runs deeper than this nonsense..  But the rest of them can all go fuck themselves.

Trying to pretend to be friends when we have nothing in common is more trouble than it's worth.

We're through.

Buh bye.

13 comments:

Xavier Onassis said...

Just to be clear, all of my friends don't have to agree with me about everything. I have some very close friends that have very different views on religion and politics.

The mistake this person made last night was attacking my daughter.

That's a deal breaker.

The circle of "friends" that I'm saying adios to are her circle of friends, not mine.

Xavier Onassis said...

So this is the way it went down.

Xavier Onassis: Just saw the "conversation" you've been having with my daughter on my other facebook account.

You've deleted all of your comments, but not before I saw them.

Let me make this crystal fucking clear.

NO ONE will EVER tell me what I can and cannot say on my facebook page, twitter feed or blog.

I will exercise my First Amendment right to Free Speech. And I will GO OFF on anyone who attacks my daughter for defending my freedom of expression. You don't want to go there with me.

You and I can agree to disagree on political and theological issues in the spirit of friendship grounded in a shared history.

But your exchange with my daughter crossed the line of civility. As I assume you acknowledge by deleting your comments.

[editing my original sentence] I respectfully request that you apologize to my daughter in the interest of preserving our friendship.

The Other Person: you are not the friend I chose many years ago...and obviously you don't have any respect for others.....so , its best we no longer be friends. And by the way....as much as i migh use the word Fuck in my daily conversation....I don't publish it for my kids...no matter how old they are...or other people to see. I have no use for that.
I'm sorry we have grown so far apart.....you used to be a sweet funny guy...but you have grown hard and mean. i have no room for that in my aging life...I'm too old to fight...i only want friends that can disagree and be respectful. And...friends who raise their kids to be respectful as well. Goodbye.

Xavier Onassis: Done.

The Other Person: oh...and by the way...FUCK OFF...I do not apologize to disrespectful children or adults. leave it alone.

Xavier Onassis said...

And although The Other Person deleted her comments from my facebook page, you can get a taste of what the conversation must have been like by reading my daughter's side of the conversation:

The Other Person: Deleted

GTO: You could just choose not to get mad about it. If believers can post 10 times a day about god, we can post just as often about whatever else. Just sayin'.

The Other Person: Deleted

GTO: Im just saying... If being friends with my dad is important to you, accept him as he is. You dont have to agree with what he says but getting angry is a choice, the way I see it. Kinda like a choose your battles type thing..

The Other Person: Deleted

GTO: Im sorry, but no. lol. First of all, I wasnt being disrespectful. But I can be. Im not the one telling people to "Shut the F up"... And if you're talking about my DADS posts on HIS profile where HE voices HIS opinions, then yeah, Ive seen them. Hes not asking anyone to argue about it. He's voicing his opinion as freely as you do. And I am, very smart, indeed. Thank you for taking notice. And I was brought up just fine, thanks. Fine enough to stand up for my father.

The Other Person: Deleted

GTO: And since you're so much older and so wise you should probably have something better to do than fight with an 18 year old on the internet.. lol

I love my daughter!

Anonymous said...

How does eating shit taste?

Xavier Onassis said...

"Anonymous" - I wouldn't know. My mouth is all minty-fresh!

sue hanes said...


XO - You aren't quitting your blog - are you? I love coming over here and reading what you have to say. I especially like your photos.

Don't quit - XO. You are a valuable asset to blogging.

Xavier Onassis said...

Sue - I've been blogging for almost 7 years. As of today, I have 1,641 posts. I feel like I've said all I can say.

If you've been reading this blog for any length of time, you already know what my opinion is about any given issue or news item. You can write my blog post in your head. You don't need me anymore.

It would be redundant for me to spend a couple of hours writing something that you already know what it will say.

That's why I mostly just post pretty pictures these days.

I have nothing else to say.

Xavier Onassis said...

Oh, and last but not least, what was the facebook post that sparked all of this drama? Must have been something pretty horrendous and egregious on my part, right?

Yeah. Here it is.

"OMG! If Todd Akin thinks everything is God's Will, why is he covering up God's Will with that horrendous comb over?"

That is what my "friend" found so offensive that she attacked my daughter.

GFY.

Midtown Miscreant said...

The country is changing since the 2008 election, for better or worse is open to a non winnable and pointless debate. Alot of people are pissed off, afraid, looking to lash out. That said, kids are and should be off limits. I enjoy the back and forth jabs we take at each other, even if you are a godless socialist commie in a fucking Kanga hat. I figure you'll come around on your death bed, just to hedge your bets.

Anonymous said...

Obama has his second term.

So its his baby now. When things go to shit, the debt reaches 20 Trillion, hyperinflation starts, and the Iranians get the bomb he will have no one to blame but himself.

It will be fun watching it all go down.

You see, I have mine and the rest can go down the Darwinian Drain.

Xavier Onassis said...

Anonymous - "Obama has his second term."

Yes, he does. Because that is the wish of an OVERWHELMING majority of Americans. We had an lection. It wasn't even close.

If you voted for Romney over Obama you are part of a tiny, tiny, minority of the American electorate. Tiny.

"So it's his baby now."

Yes, it is. Thank goodness! Because the idiot who had the "baby" before him FUCKED SHIT UP FOR EIGHT YEARS! Beyond recognition!

"When things go to shit, the debt reaches 20 Trillion, hyperinflation starts, and the Iranians get the bomb he will have no one to blame but himself."

Take a deep breath and try getting your "news" from someone other than Karl Rove.

Jesus Fucking Christ!

You people make me weep for the future of America.

NEWS FLASH!

There isn't a goddamned thing we can do to keep Iran from getting "the bomb".

Any idiot can download the blueprints from the internet. Acquiring the hardware needed isn't that much more difficult.

The ONLY way Iran would NOT acquire nuclear weapons is if they decide they don't want them and that will be a negotiated political decision not a militarily imposed decision.

"It will be fun watching it all go down."

It will be fun watching you idiots eat your own words.

"You see, I have mine and the rest can go down the Darwinian Drain."

Cling to your guns and religion. Let me know how that works out for you when you are feeding on each other.

Honestly, if I had such a horribly pessimistic view of human nature that conservatives seem to have...

I can't even wrap my head around that level of hatred and self loathing.

Xavier Onassis said...

Midtown Miscreant - "I enjoy the back and forth jabs we take at each other, even if you are a godless socialist commie in a fucking Kanga hat. I figure you'll come around on your death bed, just to hedge your bets."

So do I!

But there will be no death bed conversions on my part.

There is no god.

The nearness of death won't change that.

Dead is dead. There is no clinging to the hope of some sort of supernatural afterlife.

I don't understand why people don't get that.

Byron said...

I would believe in God, if there were one. But, there isn't one, so I can't. The belief in 'God' is insane.